Want better communication with your partner? Try a soft start up…
Since the outcome of a conversation is generally predicted by how the first three minutes go*, it makes sense to fine tune your communication skills. The harsh start up Often, the conversation tends to go this way: “You’re so lazy, you never unstack the dishwasher!” This is a harsh start up – you can guess […]
Why vulnerability is key to a thriving relationship
Why is it so important to be vulnerable in our relationships and why do so many people struggle with it?
Why choosing evidenced-based couples counselling is so important
The average couple waits six years before seeking help from a couples counsellor, according to research by US clinical psychologist John Gottman.
Did you know you have a choice?
When it comes to our physical health, we consider which gym to attend, which trainer we prefer or what type of gym gear is most comfortable. In contrast, we can be quite passive when it comes to choosing options around treating our emotional well being.
Is it ok to check your partner’s phone?
Short answer to this one – generally, no, it isn’t ok to check your partner’s phone. While a lot of couples may reason that they have nothing to hide, so it is ok, from a relationship counselling perspective I am curious and wonder about the following:
“You’re so sensitive…”
Do you find yourself soaking up the energy and emotions of others, to the point you sometimes feel quite exhausted? Or maybe others tell you that you are ‘too sensitive’?
What’s the point of journalling?
I’ve tended to be a bit sceptical about journalling up until now, mainly because I tended to see it as a something else I’d need to find time for during the day.
When you’re bogged down with relationship anxiety…
Relationships by their nature make us vulnerable. And sometimes we get so bogged down with what could happen, and how we may get hurt, that we risk damaging what we have in the present. Feeling insecure in a relationship takes a real toll on us; it might feel like our happiness and contentment is […]
Moving on after infidelity
You’ve just found your partner cheated and you’re wondering if you should stay, or leave. Family and friends might see it as clear cut; black and white – they’ve cheated once so they’ll do it again.
The one thing that helps couples function better
These days, we’re bombarded with relationship advice wherever we turn. Online articles, magazines, what friends think, what our families say. However, there is one thing I have noticed that consistently helps couples who are struggling. Here it is: Start gearing your thinking towards the idea of functioning as a team, in the relationship or […]